Learn To Communicate Well With Others
Learn to communicate well with others. There would be less problems in the world if we can all talk to each other rather than about each other. So, why is this a difficult thing to do?
Some people like drama. Some people think it is entertaining when they create drama and talk about others. Some people are just plain mean and miserable about themselves, so in order to have attention on themselves, they create drama. This includes bullying.
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines a bully as “to frighten, hurt, or threaten (a smaller or weaker person) : to act like a bully toward (someone) : to cause (someone) to do something by making threats or insults or by using force.” So when bullies bully someone, they are basically creating attention for themselves, and they create drama. Actually, they not only create hurtful, painful, emotional, and physical drama, but they also create verbal and physical abuse and harassment towards others, typically a loner, or someone who they target as weaker, overly emotional, and who also has a less fortunate lifestyle, lack of self-worth and self-esteem issues. Why do bullies do this?
Bullies bully because they lack what the victim has from within themselves – a compassionate, kind, and caring soul. Bullies bully because they think it’s funny. Bullies bully because they think more people will like them. Bullies bully because they need to have a superior feeling towards others when actually inside of themselves they are inferior. Bullies bully because more than likely they were bullied in the home in which they were raised in. Bullies bully because they want attention. Bullies bully because somebody else hurt them in some way, and they accept that as acceptable because no one came to them to tell them the lack of three words they may have never even heard in their life… “I love you,” whether they are a child bully, a teenager bully, or an adult bully. Bullies didn’t learn how to communicate well with others as a child. I can go on and on, but I won’t.
My point is, communication starts as a baby. How someone is talked to and conversed with as a baby into childhood, during teenage years, and into adulthood, will make that baby grow into an environment that is either caring and loving or nasty and hateful. How a baby who grows into child development, if not corrected to know right from wrong, will either turn into one of your best friends forever or will turn against another human being and start spreading rumours, lie, talk about others behind your back, manipulate you, and pretend to be a friend to you.
So, what do you do when you start to see these signs in someone you know, or you may already know? You have two choices, … kill them with kindness, or ignore them. People who create drama and who bully you are obviously not your friends. You need to make new friends who will care for you, love you and accept you for who you are, and who will defend you if your life depended on it.
Bullying is hard to get through. I have been there. It has taken me awhile to talk about it publicly because each time I cry. But the more I talk about it, the better I seem to feel afterwards. If you feel you can’t talk to anyone because you trust no one, then you will have a troubled life. You have to learn to trust people, which I know is a hard thing to do. I have been there. The one thing you need to know and learn is to trust and love yourself. You have to put yourself first. You have to value yourself and know inside you are worthy, and thus you begin to trust yourself. Once you can trust and love yourself, you can trust and love others. People who will become your new-found friends, your family, until death do you part in your elderly years. And the one way you can do this… well, you communicate with them, not about them. Because if you start to talk about others, you will not have many friends. Learn to communicate well with others, and there will be less drama and problems in your life.
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