Will Bullies Grow Out Of Bullying?

Will bullies grow out of bullying? I guess it depends on the person, it depends on the situation in which the person is in. The person being the bully.

This Facebook live today was sparked by a conversation in which I had in a Facebook group that I am in. Several months ago I had posted a blog post within this group, and he responded he used to be a bully, which I was quite surprised at because he doesn’t seem to be the type of person to be a bully, but he admitted he used to be a bully. He said he used to be a bully until what changed him was that he, in turn, was bullied himself. That made him change to not no more be a bully. So, in retrospect, and in a way I guess a bully can grow out of being a bully.

It also depends on the situation that is going on and how a bully became a bully in the first place. Did it happen at home? Did it happen at school? Did it happen on a playground? Did it happen at work? Where did the bullying happen? How did the bullying start? How long had the bullying been continuing?

Like I said, this Facebook Live was sparked by someone who I know. Well, I don’t personally know the person, but he’s in a Facebook group of mine. He admitted he used to be a bully until he was once bullied, and so it changed his thoughts and perspective around. So, there are good people in the world. Those who have been bullied who in turn were a bully, I guess you could say is kind of a good thing but a bad thing, because it was bad he was a bully, and in turn it was bad that he was bullied. The good outcome of it was that he learned what it felt like to be bullied. Therefore, he was no longer a bully.

In retrospect, I guess you could say bullies can grow out of being bullies,… but sometimes they don’t. Sometimes it just gets worse, and it kind of makes you wonder what made them become a bully in the first place. Why did they start being a bully? What was the situation that made them become a bully? Will they grow out of it when they get older, unless they are older and they still continue to bully. I guess that means they won’t grow out of it, because if they are still bullying years later, as opposed to when they were younger, they thought they would grow out of it and they didn’t. I guess some people can’t seem to grow out of being a bully, which makes it worse for those who are the victims.

To continue on with this, the person that did spark this Facebook Live came from a Facebook group in which I am in. He seems to be an a-ok guy. I am not saying who he is… I will name him Joe. Joe seems to be a pretty decent guy being that the group that this conversation was in. I must say that he did turn his life around. He seems to be a decent guy now. It just goes to show that when you are a bully, you can grow out of it.

If you feel you are one of those bullies, in which you feel you can’t grow out of it, or sometimes you need to be bullied yourself, or sometimes you need to take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Why am I being mean to people? Why should I be mean to people? What sparked me to be mean to people in the first place? Why should I be mean to people when I, myself, didn’t used to be that way? If not, or if I was always that way, what can I do to get out of it? Will you change if you have the desire to do so?”

These are questions in which you should ask yourself, in which you feel if you need to have the desire in to want to longer be a bully. Now, this goes to show that sometimes that things can change should you so desire. Things can change if you do not want them to be, and you still want to be the bully that you are. Just know with the bully that you are, and if you don’t grow out of it, your words can hurt, your words can kill.

This is just a message that sometimes if you don’t grow out of being a bully, just watch how you use your words, because your words can hurt, your words can kill, and they can totally destroy a family, especially when the victim kills himself/herself because of what you said or what you did physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally.

So, will bullies grow out of bullying? That is the question. That is up to you. It is your decision, but let’s just hope that some day in some way you may grow out of it, because people do not deserve to be bullied. For the person who sparked this conversation, he seems to be a pretty decent guy – I call him Joe – in a pretty decent group. Thank you for sparking this because this is my message to you today.

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Colleen Burns

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